There is a bag from a pot shop in a pile of stuff belonging to my 17-year-old. Here are some more facts:
• He has been smoking marijuana almost daily for almost four years.
• At no time before he began smoking marijuana was he violent or destructive or in any significant trouble. In fact, he was joyful, accomplished, and well adjusted.
• In the four years that he has been using marijuana, he has done the following:
o punched countless holes in walls;
o broken household items such as televisions, musical instruments, framed pictures, pottery, and other art objects;
o intentionally dented the family vehicles;
o bashed in several interior and exterior doors;
o blatantly smoked marijuana in the house, refusing to stop;
o been cited for speeding over 100 mph;
o totaled car
o refused household chores;
o used foul language with family members;
o threatened to kill himself;
o thrown away food that is purchased and prepared for him;
o quit several jobs;
o skipped school;
o rejected his entire family;
o physically assaulted a family member;
o thrown a moving car into park from the passenger seat;
o taken joyrides in his parents’ cars;
o stolen the family car keys and thrown them away;
o flattened the tires on the family vehicle;
o locked family members out of the house;
o texted angry messages to his parent’s workplace
And there’s no end in sight.
Revised November 2017
Dear Parent who shared this story,
I have read it several times and had my heart break again and again.
Many months have now gone by since you shared this with us and I hope things have turned for the better. I know the road to change and recovery is a terribly difficult one.
I am so sorry for your family. The story is familiar to too many.
Please know there are many of us who work to support each other in our challenges and to turn this addiction epidemic around. Please feel free to contact me directly if you choose.